There is a theory of love that was developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg. In this triangular theory, love is composed of three things: intimacy, passion, and commitment. Basically, in a healthy relationship between the persons involved, there are mutual feelings of connectedness, sexual attraction, and a desire for a future.
Well…. I definitely felt this today. Like I said, the theme of this month is love and boy, did I get a dose of how I love today. So, if you’ve been keeping up, you know that currently, I am in New York City and my husband is in Fort Lauderdale. Quite a distance away.
Anyway, I’ve been so busy between work and school that I (luckily) have not had time to really feel the distance. But, inevitably, today it happened. I got off work early and decided that for all the hard work I’ve been putting in, I deserved a nice dinner out. So, I went to Hell’s Kitchen and went to Brasserie Athenee where I ordered a glass of Cote Du Rhone and the Duck Leg Confit.
As I was putting in my drink order, an elderly couple was sat next to my lonesome self. I couldn’t help myself and I listened the majority of their conversation. The husband was so involved in ensuring his wife was enjoying her meal. They spoke about the fabulous things they’ve done throughout the years and reminisced about travels they’ve shared together. It was so beautiful. Meanwhile, something magical was happening to myself; I was envisioning my husband and I having that same conversation. And the feelings of longing came in.
I miss my husband.
I miss him. And that mere 25 minutes of picturing he and myself having the conversation the elderly couple next to me was having is proof that what we have is love. It’s true what they say, when you feel it, you know it’s real.
In the meantime, I’ll just enjoy this duck… QUACK QUACK!